On acceptance without need for cause

8394583341_79e2404840I had a great reminder about acceptance when I called my dad one morning. He was, at the time, in his 75th year of life.

After we had chatted for a few minutes, he told me that his wrist was hurting.

He then spent the next four minutes speculating out loud about the cause.

It was possible that it could be a drill-related injury, he said. He enjoys woodwork and was, at the time, making a batch of umbilical cord-burning boxes in his shed. It could have been jarred when he used his jigsaw to separate a bag of frozen chicken breasts because he only needed two. (Yes, we discussed this and yes, he said he does try to remember to give the blade a quick wipe first). Or maybe it was the consequence of having driven more than usual.

He went considered a couple of other possibilities before letting out a big sigh and making a statement that struck me so soundly that I immediately wrote it down so I could keep and share it.

“Old people are always looking for an explanation as to why something hurts other than that they’re old,” he said. “But I suppose most of the time it’s just because we’re old really.”

I spend so much of my time looking at research in which people are trying to uncover simple causal (and, in my humble opinion, often mythical) relationships between different aspects of our incredibly complex lives, bodies and experiences. It was really refreshing to have this early morning reminder that, sometimes, it’s good to just accept that something is just the way that it is, and to then move on with one’s day.


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